When Halloween swings by you'll usually find me sat in the dark, curtains closed, pretending I'm not home.
But you know what? It's one gloomy miserable Thursday. And I'm not sure hiding this year is the answer. So I'm tempted to check-in with the wife. See if we maybe do something different this time..
Now. I haven't a clue what you'll be doing?
But if you're even thinking of "haunting" your ex? Stop. Put down your phone. Close your Facebook page. And listen closely:
Your ex doesn't want you "trick-or-treating" them, whether in person or electronically. So stay clear. Otherwise you risk only making your ex more and more CONVINCED that breaking up with you was the right choice.
Unless of course:
- you've already given your ex adequate space since your breakup, (the "SUMO" tool inside "Breakup Dojo" helps you determine what that is);
- you're not bringing the same character and attitude to their "door" that they didn't want in the first place (you have to work on some important things during your break, not just sit and wait — plus, change isn't something you "talk" about…);
- you know exactly what you can say that won't undo all your hard work and further push your ex away (don't spook 'm..)
Visiting the grave of your relationship is one thing. But this isn't the time to creep up on your ex.
This weekend, I recommend you stay clear of your ex. But have some fun (don't hide indoors like I tend to) and celebrate the fond memories.
If you want to be prepared in case you DO "bump" into your ex?
Here's where you go:
Of course, there's much more to it than that. But you can find out more when you read it through.