When he has moved on and you want him back, start with these three steps:
- Set a time limit for winning him back (after which you will move on if unsuccessful.)
- Become so absorbed in your affairs that you barely have time to think of him.
- Send occasional fun, witty, even flirty messages, so you train him to look forward to hearing from you.
You have to start somewhere, right? And there’s no need to make this complicated.
Let me expand —
First give yourself a time constraint for keeping your door ajar. A time limit ensures you will not drift along aimlessly and squander life.
Your time limit should be long enough to give you wriggle room to work within. Say, longer than 6 weeks.
It should also be short enough so you don’t lose sight of what you’re doing or squander your life. For example, shorter than 4 months.
Second, you should strive to be so absorbed in your affairs that you barely have the time to think about your ex. The fuller your life is, the happier you will be and the more appealing you will be to him.
Idle hands and all that…
Then once you have a time frame and an active life, the final step is to train him to look forward to hearing from you. This is where the fun/witty/flirty messages come in. You have to get him talking to you again. And this is how you do it.
It’s likely been a few weeks since you last texted, phoned, emailed, or did anything else to contact him. So you probably need to break the ice.
The idea here is to send infrequent, fun, witty, and even flirtatious messages to him. Your goal is to train him to look forward to hearing from you. If your text messages ~feel~ good to him, he will look forward to receiving them.
It’s not complicated.
Then repeat the process until you can persuade him to meet up with you.
Don’t make a fuss about it…
Oh, and if he is in a rebound relationship, the steps do not change. Handy eh?
So there you have it.
I didn’t want to make this a long and drawn out guide. People make too much of this stuff.
Honestly, to get him back when he has moved on, just follow the three steps so you ~train~ him to want to hear from you. If you do that, he will persuade ~himself~ to meet up with you.
Let me know how you get on.