I’ll share a simple trick to improve your first text after no contact. It’s so easy, you’ll wonder why you didn’t think of it sooner.
Texting your ex is about clarity and connection. The main technique? Keep it simple. A good text in five words will engage your ex more than a brilliant message in a hundred. Don’t fight it.
Simple means pruning. Don’t write, “I was very happy to see your post” when you can write “Your post made me smile.” You think “very” adds something. It doesn’t. Cut extra words.
Your first text needs to grab attention. It should feel good, be unique, and reveal your ex’s temperature. Don’t be negative, use templates, or ask for dates.
Write short messages. Avoid putting multiple thoughts in one text. Exes aren’t as receptive as you’d think.
Here’s the 80% rule for good ex-texting:
- Make it feel good to receive
- Be unique
- Test the waters – don’t ask for a date yet
Your text should be happy and carefree. If you’re upbeat, your ex can be too. Sadness is contagious, especially if guilt lingers.
Be authentic. Forget “How are you?” Use your imagination. Find something that can’t be Googled.
Your goal? Gather data. You’re not trying to reunite in this message. You want to see your ex’s mood. Answer these questions:
- Will they reply?
- How quickly?
- Is the response friendly, cautious, or cold?
Remember: Your first text is a test run. It shows if your message gets through and how your ex reacts.
That’s it. You just learned to text your ex better. Keep it short. Keep it simple. Make them curious. That’s the key to a great first text after no contact.
