How Long Before No Contact Starts Working?

No contact, a strategy commonly employed in the aftermath of a breakup, is a useful tool for resetting boundaries and allowing both parties to gain clarity and perspective on the situation.

How Long Does It Take for No Contact to Work?

It’s difficult to know how long it will take to see results. It depends on your ex and also on the reason for the breakup. In most cases, we can estimate that 3–4 weeks will be plenty of time for your ex to miss you.

However, remember that taking a break from your ex is also an excellent way to reclaim your power after a breakup. It will help you feel better about yourself and build confidence, which your ex can notice when they later see you again. I recommend giving yourself at least two weeks before you assess the effects. You will find that no-contact has been worthwhile if you use your time wisely.


It’s important to understand that this strategy takes time to work effectively. Generally speaking, no contact should be maintained for at least two weeks after the breakup. During this time, it’s important to resist the urge to reach out to your ex and instead focus your energy on healing and self-care. Once the period is up, it’s then up to you to decide if you’d like to reach out and reconnect.

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About the author: Michael Fulmer is a breakup repair consultant and relationship coach. He publishes the Ex-Communication newsletter to inboxes all over the world. He also runs the Breakup Dojo, where he teaches you to make the right moves to outwit your ex’s negative feelings. Michael has been undoing breakups since 2011. No fancy suits, videos, or fake smiling photos. You won’t find Michael featured on Youtube, either.