It is natural to wonder how long it will take for your ex to miss you during no contact.
You hope your ex won’t last a day without missing you.
Or you fear they won’t miss you at all.
But the reality is you can never be sure.
During no contact, how much your ex will miss you is weighed by the specifics of your shared history.
- How long did your relationship last?
- How emotionally invested was your ex?
- Who broke up with who?
- What caused the relationship to end?
Let’s now look at these in turn:
How Long Did Your Relationship Last?
The longer we are in a relationship, the harder it is to adjust to life out of a relationship.
If you had a brief relationship, your ex might not have invested enough into it to miss it.
Whereas, if you have spent more than half your lives together, then it is going to be difficult not to long for the normality of being together.
We get comfortable with routine, and the longer we live a routine, the harder it is to give it up.
How Emotionally Invested Was Your Ex?
The more dependent we are on our partner, the harder it will be to stand on our own two feet.
We can’t help but miss the emotional connections we have made with our partner, and so, we can’t help but miss it when it is gone.
The more emotionally invested your ex was in the relationship, the harder they will find it to move on.
Who Broke up With Who?
Usually, the one who initiates the breakup will be more prepared for the difficult post-breakup transition.
However, even with that advantage, the experience of living alone is going to be bitter at first.
If your ex broke up with you, you no doubt felt desolate and heartbroken.
And this only intensifies your longing for things to go back to the way they were.
However, your ex will also be struggling. Prepared or not, breaking up is hard for both.
What Caused the Relationship to End?
Love is intense, but so is hurt and pain.
An ex who was cheated on will feel a forceful torrent of emotions toward you that leaves little room for anything other than anger, hate, and pain.
A cheated ex may well miss the stability of life pre-infidelity, but not so much your company (at least until time has allowed those intense emotions to clear.)
On the other hand, if you broke up over a silly argument, then both will be feeling regretful.
Your ex will almost certainly be missing you in a matter of days of no contact if the breakup was over a silly fight.
The point is, the reason you broke up will affect how each feels about the separation.
I mean, if your ex lost attraction for you or fell out of love, you can expect them not to miss you as much.
Still. Whatever the case, by giving your ex space and not engaging in any conversation, they may start to feel warmer emotions stirring inside.
Helping your ex to miss you is one of the reasons for going no contact in the first place.
Will Your Ex Miss You During No Contact?
If you were together long enough to form a deep bond, and your ex was emotionally invested in “the couple,” then they will surely miss you.
If every place they visit is a reminder of you, they might well miss you every single day of no contact!
Of course, eventually, time will heal all wounds and pain.
And so, one day you and your ex will move on if you do not find a way back to them.
After which, you may think of each other from time to time, but you will not miss each other.
In short, it is only natural you will wonder if your ex will miss you when you start no contact.
You will miss them, so they better well miss you too!
The reality is that how long it takes to miss you varies from hours to not at all.
But whatever the right answer may be, you can only stick to the process you are following to win them back, and have faith you are stacking the odds in your favour.