If your husband left you, and you are not ready to give up on him then this article is for you.
First, I’m sorry to know you find yourself in this awful position. You surely did not enter the marriage thinking this would happen, despite what the divorce statistics show.
You want him back because you no doubt still love him and perhaps you have a family to consider as well.
Getting your man back after he leaves is tough, but it is well worth the effort if you succeed.
Of course, every relationship — and every break-up — is different. And so, his particular reasons for leaving will affect your chances of success, and whether or not you’ll be able to get him back.
Still, whatever it was that caused him to leave, you must not lose all hope. There is always a chance to save your marriage.
It is never zero.
Put Aside the Issues
Whatever caused him to leave you will be worth reflecting upon and resolving (where possible, and where desired.)
However, the issues you have with him are probably best put aside for now.
This is not the time to focus on the problems.
You married each other for a reason; everyone makes mistakes.
Maybe he was insensitive, or lost his cool. It doesn’t make it right, but for now, let things simmer down so that — if the opportunity arises — you two can have a civil, adult conversation about what you both want and how you want to move forward.
You’re both human, and you’re both living life. In time, you may figure out whether or not you can or want to do that together.
It will be hard to stay positive during a time of heartbreak. Be compassionate with yourself, you are supposed to feel the way you do.
However, any effort you make to lift your mood will be effort well spent.
Make a deliberate effort to focus on the good, no matter how small. In doing so, you will find more good things, and life may just look a little better.
This has a benefit in getting your husband back, too.
Men are attracted to happy women.
Not over-the-top fake happy…
Think authentic, measured optimism.
Short and Sweet
You probably have a thousand things running through your mind and a million things to say. But it’s in your best interest to remain calm and keep things short.
Long conversations tend to get drawn out and may lead you down the wrong road.
When you talk to him, make life easier for him and for you.
Keep your critical thoughts to yourself; try to stay reserved but also make sure to consider speaking about your future in a positive light.
Be sure to remind him that you want to continue on together. But do so with short and sweet interactions…
Be a Great Listener
Men will talk less in general. This is not a problem, but is nature.
Of course, that does not mean you can not listen to him when he does have things to say.
Instead of doing all the talking, leave a space for him to contribute as well.
Men are not as comfortable speaking their feelings as women are, so do not be offended if he keeps his cards close to his chest.
However, if you help him to feel safe, he may open up.
Give him reassurance that you are not here to judge him or fight him on every issue.
Then, when he feels that emotional safety he may just open up with you and have a deep and meaningful conversation.
If he is making grand gestures or going out of his way to do small things to try to please you, take those efforts with a smile. You deserve it, and it will only replenish your relationship.
If he is not making any particular effort, don’t let that spoil your mood. Instead, look for things going well in other areas of your life, and keep moving forward.
Say Thank You
Thank him for the little things he might still be doing even after he left.
For instance, if he kept paying the bills for the house, picking up the kids, or asking how your day was, focus on those small efforts and make sure he knows you are appreciative.
Gratitude is attractive.
With all this pain, it can be hard not to feel angry.
Even so, pay more attention to your happiness. What can you do to lift your mood?
Whatever it is, do it!
Your happiness and your smile will radiate toward him; he will notice.
Make the effort to be happy more of the time, regardless of all the tough times you’re both going through.
Plus, we look more beautiful when we are smiling.
You may sometimes feel that it isn’t worth your time and effort to save your marriage.
This is normal.
But don’t let a momentary lapse in motivation decide your future for you.
Is it possible you are taking score too soon?
It is common to feel discouraged when facing an uphill battle, like fighting for your husband.
It may seem hard in the moment, but focus on what you want in the long run.
Don’t be scared to unpack your flirting skills.
Perhaps you’ve let them rust over the years…
This is a great time to renew your lighter and more playful side. Especially now that you’re single again (if only — with hope — temporarily.)
You should let him know that the person he fell in love with is still there in front of him.
Flirting will also boost your confidence and remind your man why he fell in love and got married in the first place.
Get Your Husband Back By Being Smart…
Take your time with this. Understand that you are embarking on a journey, and like any worthwhile journey, it must not be rushed.
It’s also important that your attitude and behaviour toward him is mostly consistent.
You do not want him seeing you flip from happy to angry in a heartbeat. Optimistic this week, depressed the next.
Show him you are controlled.
Each and every tip in this article can help stack the odds in your favor, and I recommend using them all if you want your husband to come running back to you.