You cheated. Now you want her back. It’s not easy, but it’s possible. Here’s how:
- Give her space. She’s hurt and angry. Let her process these emotions alone. She’s asking herself questions like, “How long has this been going on?” and “Can I ever trust again?” Give her 2-4 weeks of no contact.
- Stay away from other women. Don’t make things worse by fueling her anger.
- Be honest with yourself. Why did you cheat? Was it insecurity? Lack of admiration? Understanding this helps prevent future mistakes.
- Take responsibility. Own your actions. Don’t make excuses. This means acknowledging your role, learning from it, and changing your behavior.
- Apologize sincerely. Show genuine remorse. Feel her pain. Don’t justify your actions.
- Forgive yourself. You can’t move forward if you’re stuck in guilt.
- Prove you’ve changed. Actions speak louder than words. Show her you’re trustworthy. This might mean cutting back on drinking or being punctual to rebuild trust.
- Accept her decision. She might not want you back. Be okay with that. This approach might make her more open to talking.
- Spend time together without romance. Rebuild your connection slowly. Go for walks, grab coffee, or play sports together.
- Start fresh. If she gives you another chance, treat it like a new relationship. Offer transparency about your whereabouts and avoid staying out late to rebuild trust.
Remember, trust takes time to rebuild. Be patient. Be consistent. Be better.
Your first step? Give her space. The rest can wait.
