Try this easy 3-step formula to make them want you back...
A breakup can be so devastating that some never fully recover. Yet, while that is thankfully rare? The feeling that your world has been turned upside down is not. It is, therefore, no surprise that you may want to know how to make someone want you back.
This is clearly a distressing time for you. And I’m sorry to know that.
If you could persuade your lover to want you back, you would feel a lot better. And it is normal to want to feel better.
This pain you want to escape may drive you to think and act in ways you usually would not. And may later regret.
So while you may feel ready to do almost anything to make your girlfriend or boyfriend give you another chance, a warning:
Desperation will only further motivate the one you love to stay away.
While the desire to learn how to make your ex want you back may be exceptionally strong, be careful you do not squander your chances through misuse of it.
Your need to be wanted back could work against you.
But don’t worry. You are here, and I have your back.
By the time you finish this article, you will actually know a simple way to help your girl or guy regret their decision, and want to be back in your arms.
It’s an ethical way to help the one you love desire a second chance, or at least give them a chance to doubt they have made the right decision...
I’ll admit it. Growing up, I wanted more attention from some of the guys and girls around me. You know, from certain people…
That’s not unusual.
We all want to be wanted and admired.
What is unusual is that I later made an effort to learn precisely how to get more attention and admiration, and I succeeded (and did so without losing dignity — important!)
I loved it (especially the psychology and mechanics of it.)
What works, works. And I’ll share some of that here with you.
Become the person they need, not the person who needs them— Michael Fulmer
The first step to my formula sets the scene and creates the context for all that follows (strengthening your position to be wanted back.)
The one who shunned you is probably “in love” with their decision to move on, and they may even feel some power from being wanted by you.
Whatever it is that you want, they do not.
So the first thing to do is align your want with theirs…
If you are still in contact, go and tell them that you think being separated is a good idea and is for the best.
Tell them they were right to end it, and that it was hopeless the way things were.
Because using force-on-force (e.g., disagreeing with the breakup, asking for a second chance, and reassuring you will change, etc) is not effective.
Whereas agreeing means not standing opposite and against your guy or girl.
This will soften them.
Yes. When someone pushes against you, the natural urge is to push back.
We like to argue our corner.
And humans will fight you if you fight them.
So yes, really.
Be gentle yet firm with this.
State your agreement to the breakup to show you are both on the same page.
And keep it simple.
There is no need to go overboard here. If you make a big deal with this, they will become suspicious.
Less is more!
And if you ignore this step entirely, and push for what you want too soon? You risk making this person more distant.
Aside: if you’re not on good grounds with them, or the above doesn’t “make sense” for your situation, you can skip this and go straight to step #2
For the next few weeks or so, do not make any attempts to contact them, or even inquire about them through friends or family.
Here’s the critical bit:
You must become so utterly absorbed in your own affairs that, from the outside, it appears you are struggling even to make time to think about someone else.
Why Do This?
If your ex is to miss you, then it stands to reason that you first be missable, right?
So, for the time being, I do not want you to initiate text messages, phone calls, or interact on social media platforms. Learning the right moves to make comes after the break.
Certainly do not hang out at the same places you “just happen” to know a certain someone does!
Many clients have admitted to me they had done this (“accidentally” crossing paths with their ex.)
But hanging close at this time only works against you.
You want to create a void between you both.
That includes not asking your ex’s friends or family how they’re doing… it only undermines the power of this step.
You must become absorbed in your own world.
He or she is probably expecting you to be absorbed in their world. And so when they directly (or even better indirectly) discover you are not… it makes them curious about you.
If the person you love is to miss you and want to come back to you, then you first need to create the conditions that make that possible (and hopefully probable) for him or her to miss you.
Did you know?
If you are a girl you should know men yearn to be admired.
On the other hand…
If you are a guy you should understand women want to be appreciated.
However, can you guess what it is that both men and women want and seek in the other?
This is the thing you must protect and build if they (or anyone else) is to want you in their life.
Before I reveal that…
Up to now, steps #1 and #2 are all about creating the foundation you need to be in what I call POMO:
"A position of most opportunity."
Because you want to create the strongest position for yourself from which the odds of saving your relationship is maximized (as well as the odds of living a happy life, regardless of your relationship status.)
The great thing is…
Once you get this and do it, you are already protecting and building the one thing we all seek in our partners.
So what is it?
Men and women only want to be with someone they respect, and who will respect them in turn.
It is not possible to stay with someone who you do not respect (unless you are willing to have a dysfunctional relationship.)
You can not expect to be wanted, missed, and desired… if your loved one perceives you as having low self-respect.
Every action you take must protect and build your respect if you desire to be authentically wanted.
Most get this wrong and do the opposite.
If you throw yourself at your boyfriend or girlfriend and let them take advantage of you?
You undermine yourself and diminish your respect.
And plenty of my clients made this mistake before coming to me.
Girls who would sleep with their guy, and “succeed” only to find they had been used.
Guys who would end up out of pocket from making “grand gestures,” only to find themselves single and poor.
You can’t succeed if you fail to protect your self-respect.
So build it up if you want to “make” someone miss you bad enough to want you.
Humans do not want to be with someone they are ashamed to be with.
No one dates a guy or girl who they are embarrassed to be with. Not for long…
And even if you are not someone they are ashamed to be around, you can still help them perceive you as having more value than before.
Put it this way:
We can not help who we are attracted to.
It is not a choice.
However, over time we may resent a person and find that the attraction is blocked or impeded.
If you protect and build your self-respect, and you increase your perceived or real value (from their perspective) then you’ll know how to re-attract your ex. This is because whatever degree of innate attraction they already feel for you will go up (or flow more smoothly.)
We all look for strong values in our partner.
We all want someone who we can respect, not just someone who will love us back.
If you can become more respectable from their perspective, then you will naturally become more desired.
If you diminish your value, however… you will be harder to want.
You need something better to do than pining after someone.
This will ensure they won’t feel penned in or obsessed over by you (a good thing as it can make your value low in their eyes.)
If you agree to the breakup in your actions (chasing your mission rather than a person) then human nature lends you a helping hand.
Giving someone space makes it easier for them to miss and ponder what you are doing.
Love is not kind to force.
Letting go makes you seem confident and assured. Qualities that someone you love can desire and respect.
This is as close as you can get to learn how to make someone want you back without bringing your ethics into question!
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