Choosing to reunite with an ex is complex. Some people rush back, others give up too soon. Knowing which applies to you matters.
Here’s how to decide if you should get back together:
Happy Relationships Don’t End
Remember this: No happy relationship ends. You had problems. Keep that in mind.
But unhappy relationships can restart and improve. Breakups can spark change.
How do you know if your relationship is worth saving?
Emotions Cloud Judgment
Pain distorts decision-making. Fear of loneliness or jealousy can push you to chase your ex. But pain makes poor choices.
Isolate your problems. Address emotions separately. Don’t mix them.
Quick Questions for Clarity
Answer these five questions with a snap “Yes!” or “Nope!”. Don’t deliberate. Go with your gut:
- Did you handle disagreements well?
- Did you share life goals?
- Did you have similar humor?
- Was your sex life good?
- Did you share inner thoughts?
Your answers reveal compatibility. They bypass emotions for truth.
This isn’t a scored quiz. It’s a tool for honest reflection.
Compatibility Isn’t Everything
You can answer “Nope!” to all and still have potential. If you both want change, you can fix issues.
It takes work. Consider:
- Can you resolve differences?
- Do you want to?
- Will you put in the effort?
Use your answers to gauge compatibility. Remember, staying friends is an option.
Beware of Profit Motives
Many authors push relationship-saving products. Be cautious of quick-fix promises.
Don’t let someone’s profit motive sway you. Have a better reason to reunite.
Extra Tools
Try the Sustainable Marriage Quiz by psychologist Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. It measures how well your relationship helps you grow. Use it as another data point, not a final verdict.
Make Your Choice
Review your answers. Determine what you truly want. Don’t stress if you’re unsure. This isn’t life or death.
You can always change your mind later. Trust your judgment. You know your relationship best.
