The no contact rule is a boundary-setting practise that aims to reduce or eliminate all forms of communication between two people in order to promote healing.
Should You Tell Your Ex?
No. Don’t tell your ex you’re “going no-contact” on them. Just do it. Cutting contact is not an event you need to announce. You’re simply withdrawing from the relationship to care for yourself.
How do I know? I have more than ten years of experience working with men and women who come to me specifically to improve their chances of getting back together. There is no doubt that it’s more effective to just do it than to talk about it. When you announce what you are doing, you remove power from your actions.
Whether you’re attempting to get back together or move on from a relationship, the no contact rule can be helpful in providing space and time for yourself to heal. Ultimately, it’s best to take the initiative and simply follow the no contact rule without telling your ex about it.