Want your ex back? Follow these three steps:
- Make contact
- Build rapport
- Open the door
Here’s how to do it right.
Step 1: Make Contact
Start simple. Think of this as playing “knock-knock.” You’re just trying to get a response, nothing more.
Send a text. Keep it short. Make them want to reply. For example: “Hey, I just saw [something related to a shared interest]. Made me think of you. Hope you’re doing well!”
Avoid real-time interactions like phone calls or FaceTime. These are better for later stages.
Don’t push. Just text.
If they reply warmly, move to step 2. If not, wait and try again later.
Step 2: Build Rapport
Now, increase good feelings. Decrease bad ones.
How?
- Be fun
- Show interest in their life
- Be consistent
- Live your best life
Don’t talk about the breakup. Keep things light.
Share your experiences. Started a new hobby? Tell them about it. Even simple things like taking care of plants or volunteering at an animal shelter can be great conversation starters.
When talking about the future, focus on your individual goals. This shows growth and independence.
Dating others? It’s risky. It can help or hurt. Choose wisely.
Step 3: Open the Door
Show them what they’re missing. Make them doubt their decision to leave.
- Be less available (this creates intrigue)
- Meet up for fun activities
- Flirt
Arrange activities that get your blood pumping. This can help rekindle physical attraction.
Then, make your move. Ask for what you want. Consider having this conversation over a meal or during an evening walk.
The Bottom Line
Getting your ex back is simple:
- Make contact
- Build rapport
- Open the door
Take your time. Don’t rush. Your chances improve when you follow these steps. Plus, taking it slow is better for your mental health, helping you process emotions and make clearer decisions.
Remember, this process can take weeks or even months. Be patient and focus on personal growth along the way.
