How to Contact Your Ex

Want to reach out to your ex? Let’s explore your options and their pros and cons.

1. Text Message

Pros: Easy, non-intrusive, comfortable for most
Cons: No tone or body language cues

Texting is best for most situations. It’s quick, easy, and low-pressure.

2. Face-to-Face

Pros: Personal, clear communication
Cons: Can be awkward, hard to control

3. Phone Call

Pros: Hear voice, gauge mood
Cons: Can be uncomfortable, risk saying wrong things

4. Video Chat

Pros: See and hear each other
Cons: Can cause anxiety, less comfortable than calls

5. Email

Pros: Can say more than in a text, include attachments
Cons: Feels less personal, may seem formal

6. Social Media

Pros: Accessible, casual
Cons: Lacks privacy, can be misinterpreted

7. Letter

Pros: Romantic, likely to be re-read
Cons: Can seem odd, hard to ensure delivery

8. Voicemail

Pros: They hear your voice without live pressure
Cons: Uncertain if message will be received

9. Through Others

Pros: Option if you’re blocked
Cons: May seem intrusive, can backfire

Best Way to Contact Your Ex

Start with a text. It’s non-intrusive and comfortable for most people.

Make occasional phone calls later only if they’re responsive.

Contact Strategy

  1. Start small. Send a text or social media message.
  2. Keep it friendly. Avoid emotional topics.
  3. Build rapport. If responses are positive, progress to calls.
  4. Meet in person only after establishing good communication.

Remember: Take baby steps. Choose the least intrusive option that fits your situation and relationship history.

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