Want to reach out to your ex? Let’s explore your options and their pros and cons.
1. Text Message
Pros: Easy, non-intrusive, comfortable for most
Cons: No tone or body language cues
Texting is best for most situations. It’s quick, easy, and low-pressure.
2. Face-to-Face
Pros: Personal, clear communication
Cons: Can be awkward, hard to control
3. Phone Call
Pros: Hear voice, gauge mood
Cons: Can be uncomfortable, risk saying wrong things
4. Video Chat
Pros: See and hear each other
Cons: Can cause anxiety, less comfortable than calls
5. Email
Pros: Can say more than in a text, include attachments
Cons: Feels less personal, may seem formal
6. Social Media
Pros: Accessible, casual
Cons: Lacks privacy, can be misinterpreted
7. Letter
Pros: Romantic, likely to be re-read
Cons: Can seem odd, hard to ensure delivery
8. Voicemail
Pros: They hear your voice without live pressure
Cons: Uncertain if message will be received
9. Through Others
Pros: Option if you’re blocked
Cons: May seem intrusive, can backfire
Best Way to Contact Your Ex
Start with a text. It’s non-intrusive and comfortable for most people.
Make occasional phone calls later only if they’re responsive.
Contact Strategy
- Start small. Send a text or social media message.
- Keep it friendly. Avoid emotional topics.
- Build rapport. If responses are positive, progress to calls.
- Meet in person only after establishing good communication.
Remember: Take baby steps. Choose the least intrusive option that fits your situation and relationship history.