Communication Breakdown: Bridging the Gap

April 2025

Effective communication is the lifeline of any relationship. When it breaks down, conflicts arise and intimacy suffers.

Signs of Poor Communication

  • Frequent misunderstandings
    • Escalating arguments
      • Stonewalling or shutting down
        • Criticism and defensiveness
          • Feeling unheard or misunderstood

            How Communication Issues Affect Relationships

            • Create emotional distance
              • Lead to resentment and frustration
                • Decrease intimacy and satisfaction
                  • Make problem-solving difficult
                    • Erode trust over time

                      The Gottman Method’s Approach

                      Dr. Gottman’s research reveals key elements for healthy communication:

                      1. Soft start-up: Begin conversations gently
                        1. Accept influence: Be open to your partner’s perspective
                          1. Repair attempts: Learn to de-escalate conflicts
                            1. Active listening: Truly hear and validate your partner

                              Techniques and Exercises

                              • The Speaker-Listener Technique: Take turns speaking and listening without interrupting
                                • “I” Statements: Express feelings without blame
                                  • Emotional Bids: Recognise and respond to your partner’s attempts to connect
                                    • State of the Union Meeting: Regular check-ins to discuss relationship issues

                                      When to Seek Help

                                      Consider professional guidance if:

                                      • You feel stuck in negative communication patterns
                                        • Arguments frequently become heated or hurtful
                                          • You’re unable to discuss important issues
                                            • You feel consistently misunderstood or unheard

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