I am sorry you are looking to undo your breakup.
To be blunt, this probably feels like one of the worst times of your life.
Hi, my name is Michael Fulmer. I give breakup recovery advice, and work with clients from all over the world.
When a Relationship Ends
I don’t know if you have ever thought of it like this? But..
Your relationship ended the moment you and your partner no longer agreed what you were to each other.
A moment in time that was different for your partner than it was for you.
And if that moment came earlier for your ex? They held the advantage because they had a head start with preparations for separation, and life post-you.
In any case?
Here’s the truth on what undoing a breakup can mean:
For many who are left reeling in the fallout of a breakup, the desire to know how to get your ex back arises from not being able to stand the pain of being apart.
Ergo, you might chase your loved one to end the pain more than any other reason.
Think about that.
Undoing a breakup can happen either before or after the official “dumping” ceremony occurs:
- We can stop the breakup if we see the signs early enough and act appropriately, or;
- We can reverse the breakup if we were too late to see the warning signs.
Either way can be successful.
What You Want Most?
As I said above —
On a deeper level, it is possible that what you — the heartbroken — seek most is to undo your pain.
This is certainly worth contemplating because what you want, and what you need are often different.
I’ve discovered that life will always give you what you need (but not so much of what you want.)
Either way? Help is available for you.
I teach how conflict can improve a relationship.
And in turn — on a personal level — I show how a break-up can shake-up a life to allow a transformation to arise.
You can become better, not bitter.
Whether you attempt to repair your relationship, or go the route of moving on and make peace with the single life..
It is only a matter of how you direct your energy.
In your corner,