The 6 stages of recovery:

  1. Step Back
  2. Rebuild Yourself
  3. Weigh Up What To Do
  4. Say Where You Stand — Once
  5. Clarity Conversation
  6. Start Fresh

Stage 5: Honest Conversation About What You Want

10. Jul 2026 — Michael Fulmer

If they answer, there's a conversation. This stage is that.

It isn't a negotiation and it isn't a pitch. You're both working out whether there's something here worth doing differently — which means the answer is theirs as much as yours, and it might be no. A conversation you've decided the outcome of in advance isn't a conversation, it's a delivery.

There's no approach that makes this land. There's only saying true things, hearing what comes back, and not arguing with it.

And if there's no answer at all — that's Stage 6, and it's a complete path, not the consolation one.