Playbooks for Common Ex Back Scenarios

Below are step-by-step guides for common situations involving a breakup you want to reverse. I call these "playbooks" as they're self-contained guides for each situation.

Each playbook covers the entire process, from first steps to rebuilding trust.

New here? The Undo A Breakup home page is the best place to start, and is the introduction to this site. After that, explore situation-specific guides below.

How Playbooks Fit Into the Framework

These playbooks complement my 6-stage framework. Use them as action-oriented guides while following these stages:

Step Back – Give them space and create curiosity
Rebuild Yourself – Focus on genuine self-improvement
Clarity Check – Evaluate if reunion makes sense
Reopen Contact – Reconnect strategically
Clarity Conversation – Express your intentions clearly
Start Fresh – Build a new relationship or move forward

Quick Guide: Which Playbook Should You Start With?

Not sure which guide to read first? Use this quick reference:

If you were clingy/needy: Get Him Back After Being Needy or Get Her Back After Being Needy
If they're with someone new: When He's Moved On or When She's Moved On
If you cheated: How to Get Her Back When You Cheated
If you're married: Get Your Husband Back or Get Your Wife Back

All Playbooks

Browse the complete library below. Each guide includes specific tactics, timelines, and psychology:

How to Re-Attract Your Ex

How to Make Someone Want You Back

How to Get Him Back After Being Needy

How to Get Her Back After Being Needy

How to Get Her Back When You Cheated?

How to Get Your Ex Back When He's Moved On

How to Get Your Ex Back When She's Moved On

Get Him Back Guide

Get Her Back Guide

How to Make Your Ex Girlfriend Jealous

How to Get Your Husband Back

How to Make Your Husband Come Running Back?

How to Get Your Wife Back: A Strategic Roadmap

How to Get Your Wife Back After Divorce