Playbooks for Common Ex Back Scenarios
Below are step-by-step guides for common situations involving a breakup you want to reverse.
Each playbook covers the entire process, from first steps to rebuilding trust.
New here? Undo A Breakup is the best place to start, and is the introduction to this site. After that, explore situation-specific guides below.
How Playbooks Fit Into the Framework
These playbooks complement my 6-stage framework. Use them as action-oriented guides while following the stages:
- Step Back – Give them space and create curiosity
- Rebuild Yourself – Focus on genuine self-improvement
- Clarity Check – Evaluate if reunion makes sense
- Reopen Contact – Reconnect strategically
- Clarity Conversation – Express your intentions clearly
- Start Fresh – Build a new relationship or move forward
Quick Guide: Which Playbook Should You Start With?
Not sure which guide to read first? Use this quick reference:
- If you were clingy/needy: Get Him Back After Being Needy or Get Her Back After Being Needy
- If they're with someone new: When He's Moved On or When She's Moved On
- If you cheated: How to Get Her Back When You Cheated
- If you're married: Get Your Husband Back or Get Your Wife Back
All Playbooks
Browse the complete library below. Each guide includes specific tactics, timelines, and psychology:
Playbooks / Attract
Playbooks / Get Him Back
Playbooks / Get Her Back
Playbooks / Her Back Post-Cheating
Playbooks / Her Back Post-Needy
Playbooks / Him Back Post-Needy
Playbooks / Husband
Playbooks / Make Her Jealous
Playbooks / Make Husband
Playbooks / Make
Playbooks / He Moved On
Playbooks / She Moved On
Playbooks / Wife Back Post-Divorce
Playbooks / Wife