How to Get Her Back After Being Needy

July 2025

Lost your girlfriend due to neediness? Here's what to do:

  1. Stop all contact
    1. Delay your responses
      1. Don't ask about her

        After two weeks, send occasional upbeat texts.

        Stop All Contact

        Kill neediness fast. Don't contact her for two weeks. She'll expect to hear from you. Surprise her.

        If she contacts you, respond. But let her start conversations. Show you can resist reaching out.

        Delay Your Responses

        When she texts, wait before replying. Wait 3-4 hours. Show restraint. Ignore rude messages.

        For calls, let them ring out. Avoid emotional live conversations. Text back later: "Sorry I missed your call. Everything OK?"

        Don't Ask About Her

        Assume friends talk. Don't give her reasons to think you're obsessed. Stop asking how she's doing.

        Send Upbeat Texts After Two Weeks

        After two weeks, send fun texts. Keep it light. Once or twice a week is enough.

        Stick to texting. It's safer than calls. Don't mention getting back together yet. Avoid relationship talk to reduce stress.

        Establish good rapport through messages before considering calls again.

        Stay cool. Show her you've changed. Generate curiosity, not fear.

        Follow these tips. You'll be on the right path to winning her back.

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              By Michael Fulmer: Breakup expert with 14 years experience. Trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1 & 2). Thousands helped worldwide. Created Breakup Dojo — now 1,000+ members strong, and UNFAZED (new release.) My products sell. My advice works. Psychology obsessed. It shows in my work! 10,000+ read my “Ex-Communication” newsletter. Need breakup help? I’m your guy.