Still Texting Your Ex? Here's Why It Fails

You think staying in touch will help.

It won't.

It makes things worse — fast.

Let me show you why.

The Real Currency of Love

We don't just fall for people.

We fall for how they make us feel about ourselves.

When we feel proud around someone, we want to stay.

When we feel ashamed, we pull away.

This is the secret most breakup advice misses:

Pride decides everything.

If your ex's pride took too many hits, that's what ended things.

Not love. Not compatibility. Not your big fight.

Every Message Sends a Signal

So when you text your ex...

Trying to stay close.

Trying to prove you care.

You might be doing real damage.

To both of your prides.

Use the LOP Filter

Before you send a message, stop and ask:

If the answer is no — you don't send it.

That's the LOP Filter.

(Short for Lens of Pride — you'll use it for everything from now on.)

The Double-Impact Effect

Every needy message you send?

It hurts twice.

That's the Double-Impact Effect.

You fall.

They recoil.

Reconnection becomes harder.

Want to Do Better?

Here's what you do instead:

You don't chase.

You don't perform.

You let posture replace panic.

This Is Just the Beginning

If this hit home?

Good. That's the point.

But this is just one part of the bigger system.

It's called UNFAZED — and it shows you exactly how to handle the entire breakup...

Without games.

Without guesswork.

Without begging.

And you can learn more here.