How to Make Someone Want You Back

September 2025

Breakups hurt. You want your ex back. I get it. But desperation pushes people away. Here's a better way:

The 3-Step Formula

  1. Agree with their decision
    1. Focus on your own life
      1. Build respect

        Step 1: Agree with Your Ex

        Tell them the breakup was a good call. Don't fight it. Pushing makes people push back.

        Step 2: Live Your Own Life

        For a few weeks:

        • Don't contact them
          • Don't ask about them
            • Don't “accidentally” bump into them

              Create a void. Make them curious about you.

              Step 3: Build Respect

              Men want admiration. Women want appreciation. Everyone wants respect.

              Protect your self-respect. Don't:

              • Throw yourself at your ex
                • Let them use you
                  • Make desperate gestures

                    Build your value. Become someone they'd be proud to date.

                    The Bottom Line

                    To make someone want you back:

                    1. Give them space to miss you
                      1. Focus on your goals, not on them
                        1. Raise your value in their eyes

                          Remember: You can't force love. But you can become someone worth loving.

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                                By Michael Fulmer: Breakup expert with 14 years experience. Trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1 & 2). Thousands helped worldwide. Created Breakup Dojo — now 1,000+ members strong, and UNFAZED (new release.) My products sell. My advice works. Psychology obsessed. It shows in my work! 10,000+ read my “Ex-Communication” newsletter. Need breakup help? I’m your guy.