Get Him Back Guide
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Want your ex-boyfriend back? It's possible. I've helped many couples reunite. Here's how to do it.
Why listen to me? I've helped thousand's of couples reconcile. My approach combines:
Don't worry. Once anger fades, he'll likely miss you. Even if he dates others, those feelings linger.
The Odds Are Better Than You Think
A study of 792 young adults found that nearly half got back with an ex. You can too. Source: Science Daily.
Your Power to Change Things
What went wrong doesn't matter. You can fix it. Even if he's stubborn. Your story isn't over.
Will He Move On?
- Gottman Method training (Levels 1 & 2)
- 14 years of relationship coaching
- Research-based technique
The No Contact Rule
Stop all communication. This includes social media. Be polite but brief if you meet. Otherwise, silence is your friend.
It's hard, but it works. Use this time to focus on yourself.
How Long to Wait?
Give it a few weeks. Sometimes 30 days or more. Be patient. Use this time to improve yourself.
Attract Him Again
Work on yourself. Raise your value. Become the best version of you.
Don't:
- Freak out
- Get depressed
- Be clingy
- Beg or call constantly
Do:
- Go out with friends
- Try new things
- Have fun
- Be confident
Why Did He Leave?
Understand the reason. Fix what you can. Common reasons include:
- Boredom
- Lost attraction
- Lack of sex
- Cheating
- Uncertainty
Don't blame. Take responsibility and improve.
Reaching Out
After no contact, text him first. Keep it:
- Upbeat
- Interesting
- Confident
- Happy
Don't send:
- One-word texts
- Angry messages
- Needy pleas
Pick a shared interest. Comment on something new about it. Then wait.
Example: “Hey, just saw that [band you both like] is releasing a new album. Their new single sounds amazing! Reminded me of that concert we went to.”
Remember: The goal is to open communication, not to meet up right away.
Communication Strategies
Text the right way. Keep messages positive and light. No accusations. No relationship talk initially.
Example that works: “That new Marvel movie looks awesome. Made me think of our debate about the best superhero. Still think yours is better?”
Example that fails: “I miss you so much. Why haven't you called? Can we please talk about what happened?”
Phone calls come later. Wait until texting feels comfortable. Keep first calls under 15 minutes. End on a high note.
If He's Dating
Don't panic. Most rebound relationships fail. Stick to the plan.
Warning Signs (When to Walk Away)
Know when to stop trying. Some relationships shouldn't be saved. Watch for:
- Repeated physical aggression
- Ongoing emotional abuse
- Constant lying
- Refusal to discuss issues
- Multiple cheating episodes
- Friends and family all say “don't go back”
Trust your gut. If you feel anxious around him, it's a red flag.
Make Him Want You
- Avoid drama
- Let him take charge
- Be a challenge
- Raise your value
- Improve yourself
- Stay mysterious
- Keep your cool
- Have fun
The Bottom Line
Take it slow. Open communication gently. Show him what he's missing by being your best self.
Remember, the slower you go, the better your chances.
Success Stories
Real couples reunite. Sarah and James broke up over career differences. After three months apart:
- She developed her own career plan
- He realized his jealousy was the real issue
- They rebuilt with clear boundaries
- Now married for 5 years
The pattern that works: Space → Self-improvement → Small reconnection → Friendship → Renewed attraction.
Long-Term Reconciliation
Getting back is just step one. Make the reunion last:
- Discuss what went wrong (once you're stable)
- Create new relationship rules
- Don't blame or revisit old arguments
- Build new memories together
- Consider couples therapy for serious issues
Remember: Second chances need new approaches. Don't repeat old patterns.
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By Michael Fulmer: Breakup expert with 14 years experience. Trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1 & 2). Thousands helped worldwide. Created Breakup Dojo — now 1,000+ members strong. My products sell. My advice works. Psychology obsessed. It shows in my work! 10,000+ read my “Ex-Communication” newsletter. Need breakup help? I’m your guy.