Want your stuff back from your ex? Start informal. If that fails, go formal.
The Informal Approach
Communicate clearly. Avoid drama. Just get your stuff.
How to Ask
Use the least friction channel:
- Text message
- DM on social media
Avoid live interactions and public displays.
What to Say
Keep it simple:
“Hey, I need my Pink Floyd album, red jumper, and 1984 book. When can I collect them? I’ll grab and run.”
If your ex doesn’t want to see you:
“Put it in a box behind the bins this Friday. I’ll collect. Thanks.”
Or use a proxy:
“My brother will collect to avoid awkwardness.”
Wait a week. No reply? Try another channel. Still nothing? Call or involve a third party.
The Formal Approach
Your ex won’t cooperate? Get serious.
- Write a letter
- List your items and their value
- State they have no right to keep your stuff
- Warn of legal action
- Provide return or payment options
Send by recorded mail for impact.
The Legal Route
Still no luck? You have two choices:
- Let it go
- Sue
To sue:
- Gather ownership evidence
- Document retrieval attempts
- Use small claims court
- Get a court order
Remember
The goal is getting your stuff. Not winning arguments. Stay civil.
Have their stuff? Return it first. Set an example.
