Immediate Steps

March 2025  — 
 blog

A breakup hurts. Here's what to do next:

  1. Retreat and Stop Contact
    1. Leave the "battlefield" quickly
      1. Don't talk to your ex if practical
        1. Be cool if you can't avoid each other
        2. Give Yourself Time
          1. Take a break from each other
            1. Vent, reflect, heal
              1. Long enough to feel different about things
              2. Look After Yourself
                1. Exercise
                  1. Eat well
                    1. Sleep enough
                      1. Connect with friends and family
                        1. You matter —live accordingly
                        2. Spend Time with Loved Ones
                          1. Reach out to friends and family
                            1. Remind yourself of life's good things
                            2. Stay Off Social Media
                              1. Don't bother posting about the breakup
                                1. Don't grieve in public
                                  1. Privacy is best
                                  2. Don't Stalk Your Ex
                                    1. Avoid following your ex online
                                      1. Or in person...
                                        1. Stalking and obsessing hurt your pride (and your exes!)
                                        2. Skip Romantic Movies
                                          1. Sad films make you sadder
                                            1. Watch upbeat, "hero overcomes struggle" movies (Rocky, etc.)
                                            2. Avoid Love Songs
                                              1. Listen to upbeat music, not depressing tunes
                                                1. Don't feed your sadness
                                                  1. Music is a drug that enters your ears; choose it carefully
                                                  2. Avoid Big Decisions
                                                    1. Don't make choices with long-term effects
                                                      1. Postpone big decisions until you are calmer
                                                      2. Don't Sleep Around
                                                        1. Casual sex is risky
                                                          1. Rushing into a new relationship is unwise

                                                          Focus on self-care and staying busy. In time, you'll be ready to decide what's next.

                                                          What's Next?

                                                          You've taken the first steps. Good job. Now you need a plan.

                                                          My ex back playbook gives you that plan. It's simple. It's direct. It works.

                                                          Here's what you'll get:

                                                          • Clear, step-by-step instructions
                                                            • Proven strategies to reconnect with your ex
                                                              • No-nonsense advice on what to do (and what not to do)

                                                                The Playbook isn't fancy. It doesn't need to be. It gives you the basics you need to move forward.

                                                                Every breakup is different. But the core principles of getting back together? They're universal.

                                                                Ready to take control? The Playbook is your next move.

                                                                Read the Playbook