Long Distance Relationships: Tips to Win Your Ex Back

What’s more challenging than rekindling love with an ex? Doing it from afar. But trust me, it’s no mission impossible. Follow me to the land of meaningful reconnections over oceans, mountains, and yes, even time zones.

The Challenge in Long Distance

Long distance can create a nasty gap, an unwelcome void. Distance does not simply bring physical separation; it can also lead to emotional separation and disconnect.

But here’s the thing… distance is just a test.

It’s a battle of perseverance, commitment, and courage. It’s a battleground that demands creativity, spontaneity, and optimism.

Rule #1: Communication, and Then Some More Communication

Step up your communication game. It’s all you’ve got, really. No goodnight kisses, no shoulder to lean on, no hands to hold. What’s left? Words.

Use them wisely.

Focus on the quality, not the quantity. Make your conversations meaningful. Be present, engaged, and responsive.

Be Creative

“Let’s video chat at 7 pm.” Sounds like a plan, right? But not every day, surely. So, here’s where you get creative.

Write a letter. The old-fashioned way. Send a package. Surprise them. Keep them on their toes. Give them something to look forward to.

The Familiarity Factor

Familiarity, dear reader, is a friend, not an enemy.

You both have a shared past. Use it. Shared jokes, mutual friends, favourite movies—reminisce. Remind them of the good old times, and they’ll start missing them too.

Patience is a Virtue (That Pays Off)

Patience in a long-distance relationship is like water in a desert.
You’ve got to be patient. There’s no shortcut to rebuilding trust, reigniting the spark, or getting your ex back.

But, with patience, you get there.

Rule #2: Stay Away from the Needy Zone

Everybody knows the rule, right? To never be needy. Well, it applies here, more than anywhere else.

Want to come off as a sticky, annoying fly? Be needy.

Want to appear strong, secure, and reliable? The kind that’s worth crossing oceans for? Don’t be needy.

No High Expectations

You’ve broken up. There’s a reason, right? Don’t expect them to jump right back into your arms.

It’s a marathon, not a sprint. Adjust your expectations and save yourself unnecessary heartache.

Be Independent and Make Them Feel the Same

Nobody wants a partner who can’t stand on their own two feet, especially when miles apart.

Show them you can do it. And tell them they can too. Independence is attractive.

Rule #3: Keep Your Life in Balance

Don’t lose yourself in the process of getting your ex back.

Keep your life in balance. Maintain your friendships, invest time in hobbies, and focus on your career.

Your life isn’t on hold. It’s moving forward. Make sure your ex sees that.

Embrace the Challenge

Repairing a long-distance relationship is a challenge, but it’s also a unique opportunity.

It’s a chance to rekindle love slowly, steadily, and on a deeper level.

Embrace it.

Invest in Personal Growth

While you’re trying to get your ex back, don’t forget yourself.

Learn from past mistakes. Work on your weaknesses. Show them the improved version of you.

Personal growth is attractive. Let them see how you’ve changed for the better.

Always Stay Positive

Yes, the odds might not always be in your favour.

But hey, chin up! Stay positive. Optimism goes a long way.

It keeps you motivated. It helps you keep going. And it certainly makes the journey worthwhile.

Keeping The Love Alive

Rekindling love is an art. It needs patience, understanding, and a dash of romance.

Learn their love language. Words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, or physical touch, know what they love.

Express your feelings subtly. Let them know you care.

Make them feel special:

Remember their birthday. Celebrate their achievements. Be there in their difficult times.

Small gestures matter. Make them feel valued, loved, and special.

The Power of Trust

Trust is a vital part of any relationship. It’s the backbone.

In long-distance relationships, it’s crucial. Building trust from miles away is tough, but not impossible.

Prove your reliability. Be consistent. Show them you’re trustworthy.

Building a Future Together

Yes, you’ve broken up. But you’re trying to get back together.

Talk about the future. Discuss common goals. Show them that you’re serious about making things work.

Making it work:

Long distance isn’t easy. Getting your ex back is harder.

But it’s not a lost cause. It demands effort, time, and understanding. And most importantly, a genuine desire to make things work.

The Bottom Line

Getting your ex back into a long-distance relationship might feel like climbing a mountain. But guess what? The view from the top is worth it.

Stay patient. Stay consistent. Be trustworthy. Make them feel special.

Remember, distance is just a test. Pass it, and you’ll come out stronger.

It’s a journey of rediscovery, love, and commitment. So embrace it.

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About the author: i’m a relationship coach specialising in breakup recovery. i’ve been doing this for 12+ years helping thousands worldwide. i created the Breakup Dojo, a popular program with over 1,000 members. i’ve authored several in-demand breakup recovery products, drawing from my deep fascination with psychology. i also publish the “ex-communication” newsletter that’s packed with actionable advice to over 10,000 subscribers worldwide.