You want your ex back. Many do. But before you try, you need to set realistic expectations. Here’s how.
I’ve helped thousands get back with their exes. Setting realistic expectations is key. Without it, you’ll end up hurt.
What Are Realistic Expectations?
Realistic expectations are based on facts, not wishes. They:
- Are objective and flexible
- Come from analyzing the breakup
- Have positive effects on the outcome
Why Set Them?
Three reasons:
- You’re ready for anything
- You don’t waste time
- You improve yourself
How to Do It
- Do your research: Learn about the breakup and your ex
- Be honest: Assess yourself and your ex objectively
- Be flexible: Adjust based on facts and feedback
A Common Mistake
Don’t be too optimistic or pessimistic. Both lead to pain.
The fix? Find balance. Be hopeful but realistic.
FAQ
Is this giving up?
No. It’s being smart and respectful.
How do I know if I’m realistic?
Your expectations match the facts, not your wishes.
Should I tell my ex my expectations?
It depends. Only if you’re both ready and open to feedback.
When should I adjust my expectations?
When they’re:
- Not based on facts
- Not aligned with your ex’s expectations
- Not helping you
Remember: Be hopeful but realistic. That’s how you set yourself up for success.