No Contact Calculator

“A simple no contact calculator for pretty much everyone navigating a breakup.”

Find out how much time to give your ex, in less than 20 seconds.

Note: This is a simple calculator for quick purposes.

How Long Should No Contact Last?

The no contact rule usually lasts between 1-4 weeks. Sometimes just a few days. Although do note I speak from the perspective of repairing breakups. If you are moving on from the relationship, you might never contact your ex again.

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If you're looking to reunite, you just want a small break.

Not half a day…

But what about a week, or 10 days?

Yeah, maybe that's enough.

Or maybe not.

Because it depends on your situation. As there isn't a one-size-fits-all answer (despite what some claim.)

What I can tell you is this —

To get closer to the right answer, you'll want to take into account:

Those two get you to a better position to determine a reasonable no contact duration.

The Stage of Your Relationship?

Relationships go through predictable stages of development (honeymoon, stabilising, long term etc.)

Generally, the later the stage of your relationship, the more space you'll want to give. But that's a rough rule.

Then there's the level of drama in the breakup itself. The big “reason-why” and how intense the fall-out was.

HOW this 2nd part affects your “no contact duration” is harder to explain.

See, you'll want to increase the gap the more intense your breakup was. However…

It's not that simple. Because the duration can go UP if there's too little drama!

Yes, you can have “not enough” drama.

If it was a mild breakup? That warrants MORE time. Because as the level of drama drops below a certain point, the level of emotions involved drops with it.

And that's a bad sign. So you must increase the duration to compensate.

Makes your head spin, right?

Now, you may notice how some people tell you to do 30 days no contact even though they don't know your situation?

Almost everybody I know gives the 30 day rule. (or 21.)

Odd?

I thought so.

But after I looked at what was involved in giving people an accurate answer, I got it. I understood why.

It's EASIER to tell people to take a 30 day break. The danger of waiting too long is smaller than the danger of not waiting long enough.

While 30 days will be overkill for many, it's a safe (ish) answer.

But listen…

You don't have to accept that if you don't want to.

That's why I made this no contact calculator!

The free one above? You're welcome.

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