Gottman Method

March 2025

The Gottman Method is a science-based approach to couples therapy. It helps couples improve their relationships through better communication and understanding.

Key Concepts

The Gottman Method is built on several key concepts that form the foundation of healthy relationships:

  1. The Four Horsemen
    1. Criticism
      1. Contempt
        1. Defensiveness
          1. Stonewalling
          2. Love Maps
            1. Know your partner's world
            2. Fondness and Admiration
              1. Strengthen positive feelings
              2. Turn Towards Instead of Away
                1. Respond positively to partner's bids for attention
                2. The Sound Relationship House
                  1. Seven levels of a strong relationship

                  Benefits of Gottman Method Therapy

                  Couples who engage in Gottman Method Therapy often experience numerous benefits:

                  • Improve communication
                    • Increase intimacy
                      • Resolve conflicts effectively
                        • Create shared meaning

                          What to Expect in Therapy

                          Understanding the therapy process can help you feel more prepared.

                          The typical process includes:

                          1. Assessment phase
                            1. Treatment phase
                              1. Phasing out therapy

                                Tips for a Healthy Relationship

                                Implementing daily practices can significantly improve your relationship.

                                Explore the comprehensive Relationship Tips guide for strategies including:

                                • Express appreciation daily
                                  • Learn to fight fair
                                    • Make time for each other
                                      • Support each other’s dreams