Break Free from Obsessive Behaviour
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Obsession ruins relationships. It's a harsh truth, but facing it can save your love life.
Are you single? Or about to be? Your controlling nature might be why.
Obsession often starts when love is strongest. You spend every moment together. The fear of losing them takes over. You lose perspective—and dignity.
The Downward Spiral
When worry consumes you, fear drives your actions. Your world shrinks to just your partner. You change, and your lover can't love this new you.
Signs you've lost perspective:
- You see threats everywhere
- You judge irrationally
- You suffocate your partner
Your lover needs space. You cling tighter. They break up with you.
Two Paths After a Breakup
- Give space: Smart, but rare.
- Increase pressure: Common, but harmful.
Most choose path 2. Constant calls and texts push them further away.
How to Win Them Back
Stop the obsession. It's that simple. Here's how:
- Cut contact. No calls, texts, or social media.
- Widen your focus. Reconnect with friends, family, and hobbies.
- See reality. List your ex's flaws to balance your view.
Replace possession with devotion. Show respect for boundaries. Make reconciliation feel safe.
Remember: Reuniting without fixing the root problem leads to another breakup. Change for good, and your relationship might too.
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By Michael Fulmer: Breakup expert with 14 years experience. Trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1 & 2). Thousands helped worldwide. Created Breakup Dojo — now 1,000+ members strong, and UNFAZED (new release.) My products sell. My advice works. Psychology obsessed. It shows in my work! 10,000+ read my “Ex-Communication” newsletter. Need breakup help? I’m your guy.