The truth about the odds of getting back together.
If you have been lying awake in the late of night catching no sleep, I’d bet someone else’s marriage you’ve been wondering what your chances of getting back together are!
I get asked this question every week. Both men and women, old and young, whether suddenly single or chasing somebody for months.
And, often I am pressed to give some percentage figure as my answer to their chance of success (50%, 15%, etc..) as though I have a calculator for that.
And if you look around?
Statistics abound. And this survey or that are cited, too. But, is your relationship a survey?
Your breakup and what happens next is organic. It is not a result determined by a computer program.
OK. Hold that thought.
Let me come at this from a different angle —
WHO Can Help You Get Back Together?
Your situation is fragile and your time is valuable.
So, if your relationship was serious?
The truth is, based on years doing this I can likely help you improve your situation favorably and indeed your personal attitude.
And right there, we have a hint about the odds or chances of getting back together with your loved one…
But before we get to that?
You might be wondering:
“Who says they can likely help me? Shouldn’t this relationship pro be boasting how he’ll guarantee we’ll be back together, like this time tomorrow?!”
Right. And SOME coaches might promise that. Just as some “gurus” might boast an 85% success rate etc. But, that is dumb. And not how I do things here.
Precisely no one can tell what YOUR chances will be.
And I understand that and won’t lie to you, and I’m not afraid to embrace the uncertainty of the situation you are in, face-on.
See, love and relationship “success” including getting back together is not a predictable event we know the odds of. Even if you do a quiz… ha. No, because the likelihood comes down to the process YOU follow, where the odds go up OR down depending on what you do.
Therefore, to maximize your chance of success, you must use the best strategies you can for the situation at hand. And work at it daily.
Because the better the strategy (and the application of it) the better the result you can expect.
Chances of Getting Back Together (No BS)
I want to be candid and share a few words with you that most wouldn’t because they are scared to be real with you.
Let me be blunt:
I don’t know what your chances are.
BECAUSE how could any human know REALLY?
What I can say, though, is:
IF you do everything right then in return you will have increased your chances the most that you could.
And THAT’S the reality. And that’s all you need to know.
The Likelihood of Getting Back Together Goes Up When?…
…You do everything right!
Now, to find out what “everything right” looks like, you might get coaching, follow some guides you found online, or follow something more comprehensive like a paid course.
And in general? As with most things in life, the better the source of information you get, the closer to “everything right” you’ll get.
Even when you do everything right?
You MUST accept that your ex has FREE WILL which means they’re free to do as they please (just as it should be.)
But you know?
Looking around, I see this plain fact appears to be ignored.
Maybe you have also seen these promises which pretend free will does not exist? E.g.:
- “This ninja technique will have you get back together FAST”
- “When you follow my steps your ex will be begging you to take them back”
- “We have a 93.6% success rate…”
It’s like these “experts” found a way to overrule free will (which is impossible.)
In reality, these claims are fabricated to play on your deep desire to believe you can get what you want. They print these claims because they know you are more likely to accept what you already want to be true (and all the more so when vulnerable.)
So when I see that in an article or sales page? I feel anger.
So for my own sanity, I want to be very clear with you.
You might not get back together.
Hey, I’m fed up with people telling you it’s going to be easy, or that they’ll teach you a “secret technique” that’ll have them coming back “weak at the knees,” begging you give them another chance. Please…
This is dishonest.
I’ll show you what CAN work (not will) and how to not demean yourself (or your ex) in the process (important.) This is what I do professionally (meaning I am paid to do so.)
I know how to increase your chances and get you to a much stronger position, even in a difficult time. Even if it appears hopeless. And yes, some of my best (paid) advice is unconventional but only because I am not repeating the same ideas as everyone else.
So that’s what I do.
Increase the odds.
Don’t get stuck wondering what those odds are. Just focus on improving them!
This is more ART than science. It is not going to be perfect. The results are not repeatable. This is not “how to fly a plane” which IS science and IS predictable and IS guaranteed to succeed if you follow the steps correctly.
I want you to understand that ALL the books, videos, membership programs, and courses etc available to you, are more PARTIAL solutions with a chance factor built-in.
Some have a better chance factor in them than others because they have better ideas in them.
Simple as that.
Think of it like this:
The better the source of information you follow
the better you apply it
the amount your “chance dial” turns up
I specialise in turning the “chance dial” up as far as possible without demeaning either (which is part of my secret sauce, if you will.)
My own course(s) and coaching focus on everything you CAN do and CAN control that CAN improve your situation. And yes this includes ways to INFLUENCE your ex toward your most wanted goal.
You can’t force the result you want, but you can be smarter about how you approach this, including how to make your ex want you back etc.
Bottom line —
I can’t promise you will get back together or give you the odds. But neither can anyone else in the entire world. However, while plenty will make promises they can’t keep, and will think being dishonest with you is OK. I won’t do that.
Today you just need to know that you DO have a chance, and that you get to raise or lower your chances by your actions.
Frankly, the time you spend trying to gauge the possibility or do quizzes is time better spent on something else… like on finding out!