Much like a ship at sea, sooner or later your relationship will hit choppy waters. After which, you may break up.
But what then?
If you want to get back together, you will no doubt begin looking for signs your ex wants the same.
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Perhaps you are seeking for signs of hope against all the odds.
After all, love can amplify the good and the bad in people. And in the chaos of a breakup, we may never want anything to do with our partner again.
You may be worried the bad will have left a mark too big and painful for your ex to ignore...
But in my experience, humans are remarkably forgiving.
People often find the breakup to be a turning point in their understanding of themselves and their ex. And with help, this event can actually become the catalyst for an even better relationship together.
It is critical to keep this in mind as the days and week unfold.
In this article, I’ll now share the best signs your ex will come back, so you can better deal with the challenge of getting your ex back.
Signs An Ex Will Come Back
You can look for signs to better gauge whether your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend is missing you from their life.
Learning what these signs are and how to spot them is the focus of this page.
Has your ex taken an interest in your social life lately?
For example, maybe they want to know if you are seeing anyone new, either by asking you directly or via your friends.
If yes, this suggests they are worried they are losing you.
Doubly so if they are not dating someone new, either.
Of course, it may just be curiosity or insecurity.
Either way, it shows you are on your ex’s mind.
Any sign which implies your ex is missing you is a good sign your ex may come back.
Are they showing signs of regret?
Do they mention fond memories from the past?
Bringing up happy memories shows a desire to put aside the mistakes that were made.
When your ex speaks of the good times, they could be suggesting to you that your relationship has a chance.
Have you found your ex to be nostalgic and clingy?
If your ex opens up to a friend to confess they are having second thoughts and may have made a mistake?
That would be a healthy sign your ex will eventually come back.
Assuming this friend is willing to share this revelation with you, of course.
Ergo, look for clues from mutual friends who may want to give you hope. They may not be able to tell you word-for-word due to loyalty. But that does not mean they can’t drop you some breadcrumbs to follow...
Related to the above, if your mutual friends seem keen for you to “hang in there” or push you to make a move, it could well be a small sign that they know something you do not.
Perhaps they know your ex is having doubts and will be open to hearing from you.
Perhaps they know your ex wants to come back but is too stubborn or afraid to make the first move.
You might get hints about this.
Some of these signs can be so subtle, though. And it is no wonder you’d missed them.
Which brings us to the opposite of subtle...
Big No-Doubt-About-It Signs
It seems silly to have to write this, but here goes:
The number one sign your ex will come back after a breakup is them telling you they want exactly that!
If your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend flat out tells you they want you back, then that is all you need to know.
It takes courage for your ex to state their desire so clearly. Pride can get in the way because asking you to take them back could be seen as admitting they made a mistake.
There are other big signs, too. Though none as significant as that.
Lesser signs which are still significant include:
When your ex is communicating to you how they have changed or improved. Which is huge! After all, why else seek your approval?
Relatedly, when your ex readily points out the changes you have made, which shows they have a heightened interest in you.
It is human nature to want to stay close to those we like.
If your ex is making an effort to involve you in their life by:
- Calling and messaging you;
- Inviting you to hang out together;
- Asking you for advice;
- Making contact with your friends and staying close to your social circle;
- Staying in touch with your family!
Then they are making excuses to stay close to you.
Frequent contact is a universal sign. We will not willingly spend our time with people we are not fond of!
Will Your Ex Come Back?
Will your ex ultimately come back? Eventually, you will know. The truth will come out in time.
Besides. Even your ex will not know what they will eventually want.
Look at the classic breakup story:
One minute your partner is telling you how they can not live without you. The next, you learn they want nothing more to do with you.
And the reuniting story is just as confusing:
One minute your ex is adamant they do not want you back. The next, they do!
People change their minds. And your ex is no different.
Why Your Ex Won’t Tell What They Want
If you detect clear signs your ex wants you back, you may wonder why they don’t just tell you.
Let’s cover this quickly:
Men and women alike can feel embarrassed to admit their true feelings.
Especially when they have a change of heart.
If your ex wants to come back, they may loathe to admit it as it can reek a bit of, “I’m crawling back to you.”
This is pride.
Never underestimate what we will do to protect our pride.
Your ex may feel guilty over the breakup and what they put you through.
Guilt is a powerful force.
Some exes will sacrifice a second chance because they do not believe they deserve one.
If your ex feels responsible for causing you pain and anguish, don’t be surprised they are reluctant to let you know they have changed their mind!
Fear of Rejection
Put yourself in your ex’s shoes.
Imagine calling off the relationship, causing tremendous heartache and drama where nasty things were said.
Dirt has been thrown. Friends and family divided. Complete turmoil.
You change your mind.
Well if you can navigate the embarrassment and guilt, you will still have to face the fear of rejection.
The one who “makes a move” is in the most vulnerable position.
Rejection hurts, and that can be a reason to keep a lid on how we really feel.
Hesitation to enter an uncomfortable conversation is healthy if you think about it.
Or certainly reasonable at least.
How can you really know if your ex will ever come back? Indeed. And in truth, we can never really know for sure. Even your ex will not know what they will want in the future.
Even if you could read minds, it would only tell you what your ex is thinking at the time you read it.
This is not something many know or consider.
As a parting gift to you, here is a lesser-known lesson:
Our thoughts and decisions are driven by the context of our feelings at the time.
E.G., “Argh! I hate you. I NEVER want to see you again. Please never talk to me again.”
(Extremely negative emotions forming the context for the angry, negative outburst.)
As our emotions are not set in stone and will change over time, so too will the thoughts and decisions to match.
E.G., “Hey, I was wondering if you would like to meet up sometime? I miss you.”
(Warmer positive-emotions forming the context for warmer, positive communication.)
So yes, your ex may feel differently about you in time, as their emotions “move about” — just as their emotions changed to make the decision to break up with you in the first place.
People take score too soon, in my experience.
Remember: Your partner changed their mind once, and so they can do it again.
Finally, don’t freak out if you can not see any signs your ex wants you back. It could well be they are hiding their feelings well. Or they just need more time to soften.
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