How to Heal
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Breakups hurt. The self-care rule can help. Here's how.
I've helped thousands heal after breakups. The self-care rule works, but only if you use it right. Miss this chance, and you'll regret it.
What Is the Self-Care Rule?
It's simple. Focus on yourself for 30 days. Take care of your:
- Physical health
- Mental health
- Emotional health
- Social health
- Spiritual health
Eat well. Sleep well. Exercise. Meditate. Journal. Treat yourself.
Don't check on your ex. Check on yourself. Be nosey about you.
Why Follow It?
Three reasons:
- Heal your wounds. Process emotions. Learn from mistakes.
- Give yourself love. Your ex didn't want to. You must.
- Set a timeframe. Be selfish about healing.
Is It Right for You?
Sometimes you can't avoid your ex. You might:
- Have kids together
- Work together
- Study together
- Live together
If so, talk less. Be polite. Keep it short.
How Long Should It Last?
- 4 weeks: Best for most breakups
- 21 days: Good balance
- 2 weeks: For short relationship
Will It Work for You?
Yes, if you try. Use the time well. Heal. Grow.
Don't leave dirty dishes in the sink. They'll still be dirty in 30 days.
How to Do It
Be obsessed with improving. Try:
- Journaling
- Creating art
- Talking to friends
- Crying when needed
Take your M.E.D.S:
- Meditation
- Exercise
- Diet
- Sleep
Start with sleep. End with meditation.
Get support. Friends, family, or professionals can help.
Find yourself. You're whole on your own. Try:
- Old hobbies
- New skills
- Travel
- Volunteering
Accept the past. Forgive if you can.
Remember: The self-care rule heals you. Use it well.
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By Michael Fulmer: Breakup expert with 14 years experience. Trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1 & 2). Thousands helped worldwide. Created Breakup Dojo — now 1,000+ members strong. My products sell. My advice works. Psychology obsessed. It shows in my work! 10,000+ read my “Ex-Communication” newsletter. Need breakup help? I’m your guy.