How to Re-Attract Your Ex

March 2025  — 
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Breaking up hurts. But it's not always the end. Simple tricks can rekindle attraction and fix what's broken. Here are four ways to do it:

  1. Mirror your ex's self-image
    1. Change your mindset
      1. Be a lion, not a sheep
        1. Put yourself first

          Let's break it down.

          Be a Mirror for Your Ex

          We like people who see us as we see ourselves. It's called “Self Verification Theory,” backed by research from UT Austin professor Bill Swann.

          Key point: We're drawn to those who match our self-image, good or bad.

          If your ex has low self-esteem, too much praise might push them away. Match their self-view to attract them.

          Change Your Mindset

          Change the invisible to change the visible. This echoes T. Harv Ecker's “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind.”

          Happy people attract others. Don't wait for your ex to make you happy. Be happy first.

          Upgrade your mental “software.” It'll make you more attractive and persuasive.

          Be a Lion, Not a Sheep

          Lions lead. Sheep follow. Be a lion.

          Don't wait for your ex to act. Take charge. Embrace your inner strength.

          Passive behavior is unattractive. Active behavior draws people in.

          Put Yourself First

          In video games, you're at the center of the screen. Do this in real life.

          Don't make your ex the center of your world. It's unhealthy and unattractive.

          Keep your identity strong. People admire those with a strong sense of self.

          Wrap-Up

          1. See your ex as they see themselves
            1. Change your mindset first
              1. Act like a lion, not a sheep
                1. Keep yourself at the center of your life

                  Do these things, and you'll become more attractive – not just to your ex, but to everyone.

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                        By Michael Fulmer: Breakup expert with 14 years experience. Trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1 & 2). Thousands helped worldwide. Created Breakup Dojo — now 1,000+ members strong. My products sell. My advice works. Psychology obsessed. It shows in my work! 10,000+ read my “Ex-Communication” newsletter. Need breakup help? I’m your guy.