Chances of Getting Back Together
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Your chance of reuniting with your ex doesn't matter. Here's why.
After a decade of helping heartbroken people, I've learned one truth: ex back statistics are meaningless.
Whether your odds are 5% or 75%, if your ex is worth it, you'll try anyway. And you should.
People often ask me, "What are my chances?" They want a percentage, as if I have a magic calculator. But your relationship isn't predictable.
Sure, you can find studies. One found that 44% of young adults who broke up got back together. But there's more:
René Dailey of Texas University, in a paper titled "On-Again/Off-Again Dating Relationships: What Keeps Partners Coming Back?", reports:
"Over 60% of young adult respondents had experienced a relationship that broke up and renewed at least once, with 75% of those reporting at least two renewals with the same partner."
These numbers seem promising. But they don't apply to you. Your situation is unique.
Focus on What You Can Control
Stop wondering about your chances. Start working to improve them.
Your actions determine your odds. The better your strategy, the better your results. Check out my quiz to see what this means for you.
If you do everything right, you'll increase your chances as much as possible. That's all you need to know.
How to Improve Your Chances
- Get good advice. Find a coach, guide, or program from a trustworthy source.
- Follow the advice. The better you apply it, the more you'll improve your odds.
- Accept uncertainty. Your ex has free will. You can't control their decision.
Be wary of promises like:
- "This technique will get you back together fast."
- "Your ex will beg you to take them back."
- "We have a 93.6% success rate."
These claims ignore free will and play on your hopes.
The Truth About Getting Back Together
You might not succeed. But that's okay.
I can show you what works and how to maintain your dignity. I can help you improve your position, even if you're the only one trying.
Remember:
- Saving a relationship is more art than science.
- Results aren't guaranteed or always repeatable.
- All advice has a chance factor built in.
Your Next Steps
- Accept that you have a chance.
- Focus on improving your odds through action.
- Take care of yourself instead of obsessing over statistics.
Your time is better spent on self-improvement than on quizzes or predictions. Start now, and turn that chance dial up.
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By Michael Fulmer: Breakup expert with 14 years experience. Trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1 & 2). Thousands helped worldwide. Created Breakup Dojo — now 1,000+ members strong. My products sell. My advice works. Psychology obsessed. It shows in my work! 10,000+ read my “Ex-Communication” newsletter. Need breakup help? I’m your guy.