Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back: A Man’s POV

Want your ex back? It’s possible. I’ve helped many couples reunite. Here’s how to do it.

The Odds Are Better Than You Think

A study of 792 young adults1 found that nearly half got back with an ex. You can too.

Your Power to Change Things

What went wrong doesn’t matter. You can fix it. Even if he’s stubborn. Your story isn’t over.

Will He Move On?

Don’t worry. Once anger fades, he’ll likely miss you. Even if he dates others, those feelings linger.

The No Contact Rule

Stop all communication. This includes social media. Be polite but brief if you meet. Otherwise, silence is your friend.

It’s hard, but it works. Use this time to focus on yourself.

How Long to Wait?

Give it a few weeks. Sometimes 30 days or more. Be patient. Use this time to improve yourself.

Attract Him Again

Work on yourself. Raise your value. Become the best version of you.

Don’t:

  • Freak out
  • Get depressed
  • Be clingy
  • Beg or call constantly

Do:

  • Go out with friends
  • Try new things
  • Have fun
  • Be confident

Why Did He Leave?

Understand the reason. Fix what you can. Common reasons include:

  • Boredom
  • Lost attraction
  • Lack of sex
  • Cheating
  • Uncertainty

Don’t blame. Take responsibility and improve.

Reaching Out

After no contact, text him first. Keep it:

  • Upbeat
  • Interesting
  • Confident
  • Happy

Don’t send:

  • One-word texts
  • Angry messages
  • Needy pleas

Pick a shared interest. Comment on something new about it. Then wait.

Example: “Hey, just saw that [band you both like] is releasing a new album. Their new single sounds amazing! Reminded me of that concert we went to.”

Remember: The goal is to open communication, not to meet up right away.

If He’s Dating

Don’t panic. Most rebound relationships fail. Stick to the plan.

Make Him Want You

  1. Avoid drama
  2. Let him take charge
  3. Be a challenge
  4. Raise your value
  5. Improve yourself
  6. Stay mysterious
  7. Keep your cool
  8. Have fun

The Bottom Line

Take it slow. Open communication gently. Show him what he’s missing by being your best self.

Remember, the slower you go, the better your chances.

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1Science Daily study examines on/off relationships and ‘sex with an ex’ among teenagers and young adults

About the author: Breakup expert. 13 years. Thousands helped worldwide. I created Breakup Dojo. 1,000+ members strong. My products sell. My advice works. Psychology obsessed. It shows in my work. 10,000+ read my “Ex-Communication” newsletter. Need breakup help? I’m your guy.