Want your ex back? It’s possible. I’ve helped many couples reunite. Here’s how to do it.
The Odds Are Better Than You Think
A study of 792 young adults1 found that nearly half got back with an ex. You can too.
Your Power to Change Things
What went wrong doesn’t matter. You can fix it. Even if he’s stubborn. Your story isn’t over.
Will He Move On?
Don’t worry. Once anger fades, he’ll likely miss you. Even if he dates others, those feelings linger.
The No Contact Rule
Stop all communication. This includes social media. Be polite but brief if you meet. Otherwise, silence is your friend.
It’s hard, but it works. Use this time to focus on yourself.
How Long to Wait?
Give it a few weeks. Sometimes 30 days or more. Be patient. Use this time to improve yourself.
Attract Him Again
Work on yourself. Raise your value. Become the best version of you.
Don’t:
- Freak out
- Get depressed
- Be clingy
- Beg or call constantly
Do:
- Go out with friends
- Try new things
- Have fun
- Be confident
Why Did He Leave?
Understand the reason. Fix what you can. Common reasons include:
- Boredom
- Lost attraction
- Lack of sex
- Cheating
- Uncertainty
Don’t blame. Take responsibility and improve.
Reaching Out
After no contact, text him first. Keep it:
- Upbeat
- Interesting
- Confident
- Happy
Don’t send:
- One-word texts
- Angry messages
- Needy pleas
Pick a shared interest. Comment on something new about it. Then wait.
Example: “Hey, just saw that [band you both like] is releasing a new album. Their new single sounds amazing! Reminded me of that concert we went to.”
Remember: The goal is to open communication, not to meet up right away.
If He’s Dating
Don’t panic. Most rebound relationships fail. Stick to the plan.
Make Him Want You
- Avoid drama
- Let him take charge
- Be a challenge
- Raise your value
- Improve yourself
- Stay mysterious
- Keep your cool
- Have fun
The Bottom Line
Take it slow. Open communication gently. Show him what he’s missing by being your best self.
Remember, the slower you go, the better your chances.