Breakup Help/Coaching by Email
If you're stuck on a decision and can't see it straight from inside it, this is built for that.
I work with people going through a breakup who want a clear-headed read on their specific situation — not a script, not a guarantee, just an honest second opinion from someone who's read a lot of these.
What this is, and what it isn't
A good coach gives you the best read available on your situation and the clearest set of options. Not a promise about what your ex will do with it — nobody controls that, including me. What I can do is help you think it through properly rather than alone and looping at 2am. If you're not sure what you want, or what to do next, that's a normal place to be, and it's exactly the kind of thing this is for.
Two things it isn't, said plainly so you're not buying the wrong thing:
It isn't a plan for getting them back. I don't write the text. I don't pick the moment. If you want the sequence, other people sell it. It isn't sold here, and not out of squeamishness: a reunion produced by counterfeit moves has to be maintained by counterfeit moves, and that's a strange thing to spend your life keeping up. What I'll give you instead is an honest read, which sometimes includes the answer that they've already told you, or that going back wouldn't be good for you. If that's the read, I'll say so. That's the service, not a failure of it.
It isn't therapy, and I'm not a therapist. I'm trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1 & 2) and I've been writing about breakups since 2011. The training shapes how I read a situation. It doesn't make this therapy.
A rough few weeks is part of a breakup. But if it isn't easing — you're not sleeping, not eating, can't get through work, and can't see a version of yourself on the other side of this — a doctor or a therapist is the better call, and that's what I'd tell you if you emailed me anyway. You're welcome to email me as well. Just not instead.
If you're thinking about hurting yourself, don't email me: a reply can take two days. Contact a crisis line or emergency services now.
If you were frightened of them, or they controlled or hurt you, talk to a domestic abuse service before deciding anything about contact or where you live. They can help with your safety in ways an email from me can't. Your safety comes first.
Two ways to work with me
The single email suits a one-off question, or pay-as-you-go. The three emails suit something you're going to be inside for a while, where it helps to come back to it as it unfolds.
A single email
$30One question from you. One direct reply from me.
You're stuck on a decision. You want a second opinion from someone who doesn't know either of you — and everyone you'd normally ask is either in the story or sick of it.
Knowing what your ex is thinking, or the odds. I've never met them, and nobody can give you those — me included.
- Pay below. $30 for a reply within 48 hours, or $50 if it genuinely can't wait and you need it inside 24.
- Send me one email, up to 300 words. Explain the situation, and say what you're actually asking. You'll be forwarded to the contact form straight after payment.
- Get on with your day. My reply is brief — the useful part, not the long version. Want to come back on it? That's a new email.
Pay securely by card, PayPal, Apple Pay or Google Pay.
Non-refundable, because the time isn't refundable once it's spent.
Three emails, a week apart
$80The same as a single email, three times over, with at least a week between each.
- Three replies, each within 48 hours of your email
- At least a week between my reply and your next email
- All three to use within three months of buying
- Honest feedback, including when it isn't what you were hoping to hear
The stretch where the decisions keep coming and none of them are obvious — whether to reply, whether to move out, what to do about the mutual friends, whether you're kidding yourself. Things that are hard to see clearly from the inside, and easier with someone outside it who'll be straight with you.
The same as a single email: what your ex is thinking, or the odds. And it won't make this go any faster. What it can do is put a second pair of eyes on the decisions you make along the way.
Most of what matters right now happens between conversations, not during them. A reply you've had time to act on, sit with, or disagree with is usually more use than three replies in three days. If something genuinely can't wait, a single email is always there.
- Pay below. $80 for three replies.
- Send your first email, up to 300 words. Same as a single email: explain the situation, and say what you're actually asking. You'll be forwarded to the contact form straight after payment.
- Leave it a week, then write again. Tell me what happened, what changed, what you're stuck on now — or something else entirely. The third works the same way. If you write sooner, I'll answer once the week is up.
Pay securely by card, PayPal, Apple Pay or Google Pay.
Changed your mind before sending your first email? Tell me and I'll refund you in full. Once I've replied to an email, that one isn't refundable — the time's been spent. If I miss a turnaround, tell me and I'll refund that reply.
It makes sooo much sense! Wow, you're worth every penny. God bless you Michael. I will never forget you. You've helped me immensely during these dark times. If I ever make it to London one day I would love to share a pint with you.
I signed up and got email coaching close to a year ago after I went through the worst breakup of my life. One year later, I've never been more excited for the future. Since seeking your mentorship, I've focused more on my business, found value in myself, and have learned to be happy, grateful, and emotionally stronger. You've actually changed my life, and for that I'm in debt to you