Breakups hurt. You want to talk. Your ex blocks you. Now what?
Why Did Your Ex Block You?
Your ex doesn’t want to talk. They’re hurting. Or punishing you. Maybe you messed up. Blocking protects them from perceived harassment or stalking.
Some exes block to hide old relationships from new partners. It’s about their comfort, not yours.
Spite drives some exes. They block for revenge. It’s childish but common.
When to Reach Out
Wait. They might unblock you. Give them space, especially if they’re punishing you or have a new partner.
Timeframe matters:
- Broke up yesterday? Don’t try to talk now. It’s pointless.
- A few weeks later? You have options, but tread carefully.
If it’s too soon, focus on yourself. Follow the “no contact” rule. Revisit in a few weeks.
Methods to Contact a Blocking Ex
Weeks later, still blocked? Two options:
- Apologize if you hurt them. Send a letter or postcard.
- Already apologized? Find another way to contact them. Email, mutual friends, or family.
What to Say
Match their mood. Angry ex? Use humor and self-deprecation. Hurt ex? Apologize sincerely.
Example for an angry ex:
“Hey stranger. Remember me? The appalling human with no redeeming features. Well, I did a good impression of one… 😬 Sorry about that. How’s the guitar playing? Found this hidden music shop you’d love, by the way.”
Avoid: “Hey stranger. You are right—I am an appalling human being with no redeeming features.”
Don’t push for reunion. Match their reply. Gradual reconnection is key.
Dealing with Social Media Silence
Social media platforms amplify the pain of being blocked. Don’t obsess. Focus on real-life connections instead.
Rebound relationships often trigger social media blocking. Give it time. These rarely last.
Breaking the Ice
Ice-breaking is crucial when contact resumes. Keep it light. Ask about a shared interest. Avoid heavy topics.
Bottom Line
Hurt ex? Respect their space. Apologize if needed.
Angry ex? No big deal. Focus on yourself. Try again later.
There’s always a way to reach out. Choose wisely: email, postcard, mutual friends. Tailor your message to why they blocked you. Use humor to protect your pride.
Remember, patience is crucial. Give them time to heal, and use that time to work on yourself.
Blocking all communication channels is extreme. It shows reluctance to talk. Respect it. They’ll reach out when ready.
