How to Get Him Back After Being Needy

May 2025  — 
 blog

Lost your boyfriend because you were clingy? Don’t worry. Here’s how to fix it:

  1. Stop all contact
    1. Remove him from social media
      1. Ignore his calls
        1. Reply slowly to texts

          Do this for three weeks. Then, send fun texts to warm him up.

          The Plan

          Stop All Contact

          Wait three weeks before reaching out. Surprise him with silence. Your past neediness makes this more effective.

          Remove Him from Social Media

          Delete him from your accounts. This shows restraint. He’ll be surprised. Later, explain you needed to work on yourself.

          Skip this step if you’re worried it seems childish.

          Ignore His Calls

          Don’t answer for three weeks. Wait until you’re stronger before talking live. After a missed call, send a short text:

          Hey. Missed your call. Bad time for me. I’ll be in touch soon, promise x
          example

          Reply Slowly to Texts

          Don’t reply quickly. Wait 3-4 hours, but no more than a day. Keep it brief:

          Hey. You’re right—my insecurity got out of hand. Need time to process. I’ll be in touch soon x
          example

          Send Fun Texts Later

          After three weeks, send upbeat messages. Keep them:

          • Positive
            • Calm
              • Fun

                Don’t beg him back. Show you control your emotions. Send 1-2 messages a week. Build up slowly.

                Later, ask to meet for coffee. Build good feelings before discussing getting back together.

                The Bottom Line

                To fix neediness:

                1. Stop all contact
                  1. Remove him from social media
                    1. Ignore his calls
                      1. Reply slowly to texts

                        Do this for three weeks. Then reach out. He’ll be curious, not afraid. This is how to win him back after being needy.

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