Lost your boyfriend because you were clingy? Don’t worry. Here’s how to fix it:
- Stop all contact
- Remove him from social media
- Ignore his calls
- Reply slowly to texts
Do this for three weeks. Then, send fun texts to warm him up.
The Plan
Stop All Contact
Wait three weeks before reaching out. Surprise him with silence. Your past neediness makes this more effective.
Remove Him from Social Media
Delete him from your accounts. This shows restraint. He’ll be surprised. Later, explain you needed to work on yourself.
Skip this step if you’re worried it seems childish.
Ignore His Calls
Don’t answer for three weeks. Wait until you’re stronger before talking live. After a missed call, send a short text:
“Hey. Missed your call. Bad time for me. I’ll be in touch soon, promise x”
Reply Slowly to Texts
Don’t reply quickly. Wait 3-4 hours, but no more than a day. Keep it brief:
“Hey. You’re right—my insecurity got out of hand. Need time to process. I’ll be in touch soon x”
Send Fun Texts Later
After three weeks, send upbeat messages. Keep them:
- Positive
- Calm
- Fun
Don’t beg him back. Show you control your emotions. Send 1-2 messages a week. Build up slowly.
Later, ask to meet for coffee. Build good feelings before discussing getting back together.
The Bottom Line
To fix neediness:
- Stop all contact
- Remove him from social media
- Ignore his calls
- Reply slowly to texts
Do this for three weeks. Then reach out. He’ll be curious, not afraid. This is how to win him back after being needy.
