How to Text Your Ex Back

March 2025  — 
 blog

Want your ex back? Texting can help. Here's how to do it right.

Break the Ice

Start small. Don't rush. Your first text should:

  1. Get a reply
    1. Gauge response time
      1. Check their mood

        Example: “Hey [Ex's name], remember that time we got lost hiking and ended up at that amazing viewpoint? Just saw a photo that reminded me of it. Hope you're doing well.”

        Wait for their response. Don't push it.

        • Warm reply? Move to step 2.
          • Cold reply? Give them space.

            Advanced Technique: Address their feelings. If you know they're upset, acknowledge it:

            “I know things ended roughly between us. I've been reflecting on my part in that. I hope you're doing okay.”

            Build Rapport

            Got a positive response? Great. Now build connection.

            Do:

            • Keep it light
              • Recall good times
                • Be positive

                  Don't:

                  • Bring up bad memories
                    • Show neediness
                      • Send empty texts

                        Use humor. Make them smile.

                        Example: “Just passed by that restaurant where you accidentally ordered the super spicy dish. Still remember your face! 😂 Hope your taste buds have recovered!”

                        Time it right. Don't text too early or late.

                        Rekindle Romance

                        Built some rapport? Time to flirt a little.

                        Tips:

                        • Start mild
                          • Follow their lead
                            • Keep it rare

                              Example: “You know, I still haven't found anyone who can make me laugh like you do. Your sense of humor is truly one of a kind.”

                              Ready to meet? Plan something simple. Coffee works.

                              Advanced Technique: Turn negatives into positives. If they express anger:

                              “I understand you're angry. That shows how much you cared. I'd like to talk about it if you're open to it.”

                              Text Smart

                              • Write, wait, then send
                                • Stay positive
                                  • Keep it short
                                    • Don't expect too much
                                      • Never fight via text

                                        Remember: Texting should be fun.

                                        Now go get your ex back.

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                                              By Michael Fulmer: Breakup expert with 14 years experience. Trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1 & 2). Thousands helped worldwide. Created Breakup Dojo — now 1,000+ members strong. My products sell. My advice works. Psychology obsessed. It shows in my work! 10,000+ read my “Ex-Communication” newsletter. Need breakup help? I’m your guy.