How to Text Your Ex Back

March 2025

Want your ex back? Texting can help. Here's how to do it right.

Break the Ice

Start small. Don't rush. Your first text should:

  1. Get a reply
    1. Gauge response time
      1. Check their mood

        Example: “Hey [Ex's name], remember that time we got lost hiking and ended up at that amazing viewpoint? Just saw a photo that reminded me of it. Hope you're doing well.”

        Wait for their response. Don't push it.

        • Warm reply? Move to step 2.
          • Cold reply? Give them space.

            Advanced Technique: Address their feelings. If you know they're upset, acknowledge it:

            “I know things ended roughly between us. I've been reflecting on my part in that. I hope you're doing okay.”

            Build Rapport

            Got a positive response? Great. Now build connection.

            Do:

            • Keep it light
              • Recall good times
                • Be positive

                  Don't:

                  • Bring up bad memories
                    • Show neediness
                      • Send empty texts

                        Use humor. Make them smile.

                        Example: “Just passed by that restaurant where you accidentally ordered the super spicy dish. Still remember your face! 😂 Hope your taste buds have recovered!”

                        Time it right. Don't text too early or late.

                        Rekindle Romance

                        Built some rapport? Time to flirt a little.

                        Tips:

                        • Start mild
                          • Follow their lead
                            • Keep it rare

                              Example: “You know, I still haven't found anyone who can make me laugh like you do. Your sense of humor is truly one of a kind.”

                              Ready to meet? Plan something simple. Coffee works.

                              Advanced Technique: Turn negatives into positives. If they express anger:

                              “I understand you're angry. That shows how much you cared. I'd like to talk about it if you're open to it.”

                              Text Smart

                              • Write, wait, then send
                                • Stay positive
                                  • Keep it short
                                    • Don't expect too much
                                      • Never fight via text

                                        Remember: Texting should be fun.

                                        Now go get your ex back.

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                                              By Michael Fulmer: Breakup expert with 14 years experience. Trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1 & 2). Thousands helped worldwide. Created Breakup Dojo — now 1,000+ members strong, and UNFAZED (new release.) My products sell. My advice works. Psychology obsessed. It shows in my work! 10,000+ read my “Ex-Communication” newsletter. Need breakup help? I’m your guy.