Gottman Method

March 2025

Strong relationships don't happen by accident.

The Gottman Method offers proven tools to build trust, improve communication, and deepen connection.

Explore these evidence-based strategies to create a better relationship.

Key Concepts

The Gottman Method is built on several key concepts that form the foundation of healthy relationships:

1. The Four Horsemen 

  • Criticism
  • Contempt
  • Defensiveness
  • Stonewalling

2. Love Maps 

  • Know your partner's world

3. Fondness and Admiration 

  • Strengthen positive feelings

4. Turn Towards Instead of Away 

  • Respond positively to partner's bids for attention

5. The Sound Relationship House 

  • Seven levels of a strong relationship

Benefits of Gottman Method

Couples who engage in the Gottman Method often experience numerous benefits:

  • Improve communication
  • Increase intimacy
  • Resolve conflicts effectively
  • Create shared meaning

Need Guidance? Consider Therapy

For those who want it, understanding the therapy process can help you feel more prepared.

The typical process includes:

  1. Assessment phase
  2. Treatment phase
  3. Phasing out therapy

Tips for a Healthy Relationship

Implementing daily practices can significantly improve your relationship.

Explore the comprehensive Relationship Tips guide for strategies including:

  • Express appreciation daily
  • Learn to fight fair
  • Make time for each other
  • Support each other’s dreams