Gottman Method

March 2025

Strong relationships don't happen by accident.

The Gottman Method offers proven tools to build trust, improve communication, and deepen connection.

Explore these evidence-based strategies to create a better relationship.

Key Concepts

The Gottman Method is built on several key concepts that form the foundation of healthy relationships:

  1. The Four Horsemen
    1. Criticism
      1. Contempt
        1. Defensiveness
          1. Stonewalling
          2. Love Maps
            1. Know your partner's world
            2. Fondness and Admiration
              1. Strengthen positive feelings
              2. Turn Towards Instead of Away
                1. Respond positively to partner's bids for attention
                2. The Sound Relationship House
                  1. Seven levels of a strong relationship

                  Benefits of Gottman Method

                  Couples who engage in the Gottman Method often experience numerous benefits:

                  • Improve communication
                    • Increase intimacy
                      • Resolve conflicts effectively
                        • Create shared meaning

                          Need Guidance? Consider Therapy

                          For those who want it, understanding the therapy process can help you feel more prepared.

                          The typical process includes:

                          1. Assessment phase
                            1. Treatment phase
                              1. Phasing out therapy

                                Tips for a Healthy Relationship

                                Implementing daily practices can significantly improve your relationship.

                                Explore the comprehensive Relationship Tips guide for strategies including:

                                • Express appreciation daily
                                  • Learn to fight fair
                                    • Make time for each other
                                      • Support each other’s dreams