Gottman Method

March 2025

Strong relationships don't happen by accident.

The Gottman Method offers proven tools to build trust, improve communication, and deepen connection.

Explore these evidence-based strategies to create a better relationship.

Key Concepts

The Gottman Method is built on several key concepts that form the foundation of healthy relationships:

1. The Four Horsemen 

  • Criticism
    • Contempt
      • Defensiveness
        • Stonewalling

          2. Love Maps 

          • Know your partner's world

            3. Fondness and Admiration 

            • Strengthen positive feelings

              4. Turn Towards Instead of Away 

              • Respond positively to partner's bids for attention

                5. The Sound Relationship House 

                • Seven levels of a strong relationship

                  Benefits of Gottman Method

                  Couples who engage in the Gottman Method often experience numerous benefits:

                  • Improve communication
                    • Increase intimacy
                      • Resolve conflicts effectively
                        • Create shared meaning

                          Need Guidance? Consider Therapy

                          For those who want it, understanding the therapy process can help you feel more prepared.

                          The typical process includes:

                          1. Assessment phase
                            1. Treatment phase
                              1. Phasing out therapy

                                Tips for a Healthy Relationship

                                Implementing daily practices can significantly improve your relationship.

                                Explore the comprehensive Relationship Tips guide for strategies including:

                                • Express appreciation daily
                                  • Learn to fight fair
                                    • Make time for each other
                                      • Support each other’s dreams